Crush & Infatuation

Everybody goes through it one time or the other. Some keep falling ‘in’ and ‘out’ of it so often that they lose count but definitely not the spirit. It can happen at any time of ones life: 16 or 60. Yes, I am talking about developing a ‘crush’. It is a feeling which is so familiar yet every time it comes with a novelty. So how does one define Crush? Let me offer one. It is a temporary phase of attachment that one develops towards anything ‘living’: the source of this attachment is infatuation rather than love. Having defined it now let me tell you that ‘crush’ can be of different kinds. There is this crush that you develop for a celebrity, be it a sportsperson or a cine star or the guy/girl that appeared in an ad/movie the other day. Then again there are instances of people developing crush towards ones teacher, a distant relative or even a neighborhood ‘kirana’ stores owner. And finally the most lethal crush, the ones that you develop for your peers or seniors in schools, colleges or any such institution that you happen to attend together. Although I have categorized Crushes here, it is important to put the rider that the object of ones crush can be ‘any living being’ and any categorization is merely ‘academic’ in nature. The only restriction that I have put here is that the object has to be a breathing creature. Nothing more. There is another very fundamental aspect of Crush. It is that there is no rationale behind the reason for developing a crush. It purely rests on impulse and is beyond the realm of logic. There are many interesting things that this Crush can do to a person. Ok before I delve into the various facets of ‘Crush’-ism let me also tell you more often than not the Crush is developed for a person of opposite gender/sex. This again is not a rule but is often observed in reality. People who are going through a Crush phase have some common characteristics. Some normally observed ones are: absolute craziness of attributing all good/bad things happening to him/her to the Crush effect, talking ceaselessly about the object of ones Crush irrespective of whether the listener is interested or not, bursting & bubbling with energy every time your object of crush appears in sight, demonstrating insane possessiveness towards the object of ones Crush, and some utterly childish ones like ‘muttering his/her name in sleep, or etching his/her name in every damn thing that you can lay hands on, etc. These characteristics again have no theoretical backing and have been determined by empirical observation. Crushes can occur during any time of ones existence. They are the highpoints of ones life. Those months, days or even moments make life seem such a wonderful journey. And if one is lucky what starts as ‘Crush’ may eventually lead to a life long association. Even I write this I am nurturing not one but three parallel Crushes. I don’t know if any of these will ever lead to anything. I do not care either. All I know is that I am enjoying the experience more than anything else. So as long as it exists just indulge and immerse yourself into this ‘pool’ of ruptures.