Decisions in Life !!

'Decisiveness' is an important quality that a manager should have. As a B-School student you hear this being repeated time & again by ur profs, peers & seniors. So, if u do not have it yet , acquire it. Or else be doomed, so they say. All 'successful' ppl apparently had taken a certain decision in their life which defined their success. Well I think to a considerable extent it may be true. Coz, life often bring u @ such crucial junctures, wherein u have to take certain decision which ultimately determines ur future course of action. You take a wrong decision and ur r doomed. But what if one is 'indecisive' by nature? Does he stand a chance to 'succeed' ? Or is his destiny predetermined. Can he hope to acquire this quality ? If yes, how ? Or more fundentally can it be acquired ? Is it something which is innate ?? Does he really have control over it ? To even attempt to answer any of these questions one should first understand what it really takes to choose one option over other when exposed to a plethora of options ?? Especially so when the options r the paths that one is abt to tread in life. I do not have an answer to any of these quesstions nor shall I try to answer. I will just reflect on some of my observations. Since ones birth human beings find himself surrounded a group of ppl. Initially the grp comprises of his/her parents only but as one grows up the grp becomes larger & more diverge. The events of the society around him shapes his character, his thoughts, his opinions & even his choices. Very soon all decisions he takes in life becomes a function of the variables determined by the society. He does not get any opportunity to excercise his will. Sometimes his mind wantst to break free but the pressure of the society is so much that he wilts. So he starts to tread a path which the people around him decided was best for him. The same story is repeated over n over again , every time which is a definining time in his life. It does not stop at that. This habit of taking decisions to satisfy others becomes so strong that he stops listening to the voice within him. He even tries to stifle the voice of the others. This completes his becoming a part of those who shaped his decisions. Well this is the story for most. But there r some whose mind does not allow him to rest. The voice which he suppressed once tries to find an outlet all the time. He wants to listen to that voice. He wants to witness the moment when the sun rises, or the moment when the rains fall & washes the leaves , the moments which seems like eternity. But he is afraid of retracing back the path he has been made to tread. He is afraid of being not accepted by others. And also the fact that he has not listened to the voice for so long makes him a coward. He does not know where to draw courage from. A battle rages in his mind. Then he makes a mistake again. He lets destiny to decide for him. And dedstiny more often then not leads him into the same old path again. Is destiny one with them ?